By Esther Alexander (ABUJA) –
Comparing your ex to your current partner is not ideal, in this article I will explain some of the hidden mysteries behind comparing your ex and your present relationship.
Nobody likes completion, especially when it’s a constant reminder that someone else is better than them. Comparison has a way of affecting our lives even as individuals.
Imagine how you felt as a child growing up and your parents constantly reminded you of how better your friend is and you’re not. With this in view, also imagine how your current partner feels when you keep comparing him or her with the ex-factor.
In my opinion which I would be sharing here, there is no such thing as healthy comparison in a relationship.
One of the things comparison does to your relationship is INSECURITY: this sets in when your partner no longer feels secured around you as a result of constant comparison.
Furthermore, TRUST ISSUES may arise, you just might be needing more reasons for them to trust you considering the fact that you always make your ex the center of every conversation.
Another area of consideration is TOXICITY, as weird as this may sound, insecurities and trust issues has a way of inviting toxicity into a relationship.
In addition, DISRESPECT just may crawl in as well, the current partner begins to feel disrespected in that relationship if all those is happening and just may not want to take it anymore.
Finally, this could lead to break up or termination of relationship. Nobody wants to be seen as a second option, moreover, a constant reminder to meet up with the ex-standard is definitely not ideal.
